Top 10 Traits Of A Great Christian Girlfriend
by Lee Wilson
Number 10 - She's independent
No, I don't mean that she's a radical feminist or an arrogant loudmouth. I mean that she is confident, optimistic and doesn't require you in her world every second to maintain her sanity. She misses you when you aren't with her, but she knows she will survive. She knows that there are some things that are outside of her control and she's not going to pout or worry about them. She enjoys time with her friends and isn't hurt if you want to spend an evening playing X-box with your buds.
Number 9 - She's complimentary of your looks
If you're always telling her how beautiful you think she is and all she can say is "thank you," you're in trouble. A great Christian girlfriend tells you how hot she thinks you look in THAT shirt and might even be overheard telling her friends how handsome she thinks you look. She introduces you to her friends with lines such as, "this handsome fella is my boyfriend," or jokingly says things like "you can't have him, he's mine." You know what I'm talking about, those things that some girls have forgotten make us guys feel good too.
Number 8 - She's attracted to you sexually
That's right, SEXUALLY. Don't panic. What I'm about to say might be a little bit controversial, but I think you'll agree with me if you read all of this one. We're all grown-ups here and I'm not advocating that you have sex before you get married. But if it's easy for her to just sit there and hold your hand, you might want to reconsider. The apostle Paul said it's "better to marry than to burn with passion." That means that if you can't stand it and are having difficulty controlling yourself, you need to marry that person or be done with the relationship. So if you two are an "item" and have been for a while, that natural urge God placed within humans should start to kick in. If she doesn't seem to at least wish the two of you could go further than a passionate kiss, you might need to read the writing on the wall. The last thing you want is a sexually-uninterested wife. It's normal for you and her to have to fight that urge. It's not supposed to be easy. She should want you that way and if she doesn't, MOVE ON.
Number 7 - She's beautiful
Yeah, yeah, I know it's popular to say that inner beauty is all that matters. Well it doesn't. There I said it. She needs to be beautiful in your eyes. If you think she's beautiful and someone else things she's ugly, so what? You win! If you think she's beautiful on the outside and the inside, you've found the perfect combination.
Number 6 - She respects you
R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me! She doesn't roll her eyes at you. She doesn't mock you for thinking differently on some issue. She respects your opinion. She doesn't go to daddy to see if you really know what you're talking about. She doesn't tell your secrets to other people. She is able to recognize your strengths and admires you for them.
Number 5 - She lets you be a man (and likes it)
She understands that men and women are different. No, you don't want to go to the antique museum with her and she should know that you probably never will like it a whole lot. She should be able to recognize that when you do go it's because you love her very much and are making a sacrifice. She doesn't want you to "get in touch with your feminine side" and understands that sometimes you really aren't thinking about anything in particular. Lastly, she doesn't deprive you of golfing with the guys (or whatever you like to do with your buds). She doesn't think her shopping trips with the girls are not more mature or sophisticated than your time with the boys.
Number 4 - She doesn't nag
There is nothing worse than a nag! A great girlfriend knows this and chooses her battles wisely. She's knows you two are on the same team and so she doesn't try to be your teacher or mother--she just listens and tries to see your side.
Number 3 - She gets along with your friends & family
A great girlfriend will not only help your mom in the kitchen, listen to your dad's stories, and hang out with your friends, she will enjoy it. She'll make a real effort to get to know and love the most important people in your life. And she won't try to get you to ditch your best buds. She'll sit through your little brother's elementary play and go to your little sister's piano recital. Not only that, but your friends won't roll their eyes and moan when you announce that she'll be joining you guys when she gets off work (yes, women like this do exist).
Number 2 - She loves you
"She likes me for me!" That's a great line from a Blessed Union of Souls' song called, Hey Leonardo. That makes a great Christian girlfriend. She likes you for who you really are and not who you might sometimes pretend to be. She doesn't try to change you. She thinks you look cute in that old baseball hat and she made a decision to learn a few things about football. She treats you well on an everyday basis and doesn't play mind games with you such as playing "hard to get" or insulting you in some strange attempt to flirt with you. No, she loves you in a mature way and takes your feelings and beliefs into consideration at every turn.
Number 1 - She makes you want to be closer to God
No, she doesn't nag you about how you should be singing louder in church or shouldn't take a bite of your steak before saying "grace." In fact, she doesn't have to say anything to make you want to be closer to God. It's the way she treats you. It's that strange feeling of guilt that recently started coming over you for tripping your sister when you were a boy. It's why you want to thank God every time you think of her. Maybe it's love!
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Week 12 and I'm near the end
I can’t concentrate. My head hurts. Right now instead of writing my assignment, I can only bear to think of what’s wandering around inside my head.
Yea! It’s week 12 of my semester. I have two more week to go… well its one study week and one test week, and then it’s a wrap! [for the semester that is]
Fortunately it’s almost the end. I was really starting to lose it, urgh! Assignments are on track, my PR journal is still in progress but it’ll be done in time. I just need to sit my butt down and type away, which sadly I’m not doing. God help me!
However, a downside to the end of this semester is that my favorite lecturer has ended his contract and won’t be lecturing next semester *sigh* hopefully, the replacement won’t be a lousy one…
On the emotions side, I’ve been on a roller coaster. I have wanted and hoped and prayed, but I broke my heart. Not that it was rejection but a very long delay or maybe it’s not meant to be. And especially after Sunday’s service, ask for what you want. But that’s just the problem, I thought I knew what I wanted, now I’m not so sure. Maybe the timing isn’t right for now or maybe it wasn’t from the very beginning. I don’t know and I’m not sure now whether I want to know. I feel lost.
I want to hold on, but I want to let go. But I fear that if I let go, I might regret.
I feel like I just have to let it go into God’s hands. But it’s hard.
Well, for something good. That said lecturer approached me this morning and said he’s recommending me and a few others (10 in total) for some sort of a workshop with Al-Jazeera sometime in November. [FYI: Al-Jazeera is a news channel] I was flattered and honored that I was selected and recommended. Praise the Lord!
He was asking about how I felt about journalism, seeing that Al-Jazeera after all is a news channel, well… I’m not into journalism but I’ll take any opportunity that comes by. And it’s sure an experience I won’t get again.
Thank God indeed. This just goes to show that they do realize my work and potential. I feel good.
Yea! It’s week 12 of my semester. I have two more week to go… well its one study week and one test week, and then it’s a wrap! [for the semester that is]
Fortunately it’s almost the end. I was really starting to lose it, urgh! Assignments are on track, my PR journal is still in progress but it’ll be done in time. I just need to sit my butt down and type away, which sadly I’m not doing. God help me!
However, a downside to the end of this semester is that my favorite lecturer has ended his contract and won’t be lecturing next semester *sigh* hopefully, the replacement won’t be a lousy one…
On the emotions side, I’ve been on a roller coaster. I have wanted and hoped and prayed, but I broke my heart. Not that it was rejection but a very long delay or maybe it’s not meant to be. And especially after Sunday’s service, ask for what you want. But that’s just the problem, I thought I knew what I wanted, now I’m not so sure. Maybe the timing isn’t right for now or maybe it wasn’t from the very beginning. I don’t know and I’m not sure now whether I want to know. I feel lost.
I want to hold on, but I want to let go. But I fear that if I let go, I might regret.
I feel like I just have to let it go into God’s hands. But it’s hard.
Well, for something good. That said lecturer approached me this morning and said he’s recommending me and a few others (10 in total) for some sort of a workshop with Al-Jazeera sometime in November. [FYI: Al-Jazeera is a news channel] I was flattered and honored that I was selected and recommended. Praise the Lord!
He was asking about how I felt about journalism, seeing that Al-Jazeera after all is a news channel, well… I’m not into journalism but I’ll take any opportunity that comes by. And it’s sure an experience I won’t get again.
Thank God indeed. This just goes to show that they do realize my work and potential. I feel good.
Thursday, October 15, 2009
Oh Lord, You know me
At the moment, I’m feeling a little lost. That is when the semester break comes, I haven’t decided what to do neither am I sure whether I want to do anything...
I’m finding a little solace in this verse though
Psalms 139:1-4
1 O LORD, you have searched me
..........and you know me.
2 You know when I sit and when I rise;
..........you perceive my thoughts from afar.
3 You discern my going out and my lying down;
..........you are familiar with all my ways.
4 Before a word is on my tongue
..........you know it completely, O LORD.
I think everyone can find some comfort on how to face the uncertainties of life because of this...
Psalms 139:13-16
13 For you created my inmost being;
..........you knit me together in my mother's womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
..........your works are wonderful,
..........I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
..........when I was made in the secret place.
..........When I was woven together in the depths of the earth,
16 your eyes saw my unformed body.
..........All the days ordained for me
..........were written in your book
..........before one of them came to be.
Thank you Lord creating me the way I am. I don’t want to change anything about myself and I want to share all that I can give to those around me.
Psalms 139:23-24
23 Search me, O God, and know my heart;
..........test me and know my anxious thoughts.
24 See if there is any offensive way in me,
..........and lead me in the way everlasting.
I’m finding a little solace in this verse though
Psalms 139:1-4
1 O LORD, you have searched me
..........and you know me.
2 You know when I sit and when I rise;
..........you perceive my thoughts from afar.
3 You discern my going out and my lying down;
..........you are familiar with all my ways.
4 Before a word is on my tongue
..........you know it completely, O LORD.
I think everyone can find some comfort on how to face the uncertainties of life because of this...
Psalms 139:13-16
13 For you created my inmost being;
..........you knit me together in my mother's womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
..........your works are wonderful,
..........I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
..........when I was made in the secret place.
..........When I was woven together in the depths of the earth,
16 your eyes saw my unformed body.
..........All the days ordained for me
..........were written in your book
..........before one of them came to be.
Thank you Lord creating me the way I am. I don’t want to change anything about myself and I want to share all that I can give to those around me.
Psalms 139:23-24
23 Search me, O God, and know my heart;
..........test me and know my anxious thoughts.
24 See if there is any offensive way in me,
..........and lead me in the way everlasting.
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
I aspire to be...
...like the woman described in Proverbs 31.
10 Who can find a virtuous wife?
For her worth is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
And willingly works with her hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
She brings her food from afar.
15 She also rises while it is yet night,
And provides food for her household,
And a portion for her maidservants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
From her profits she plants a vineyard.
17 She girds herself with strength,
And strengthens her arms.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is good,
And her lamp does not go out by night.
19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
And her hand holds the spindle.
20 She extends her hand to the poor,
Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
For all her household is clothed with scarlet.
22 She makes tapestry for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
And supplies sashes for the merchants.
25 Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “ Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
And let her own works praise her in the gates.
For her worth is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
And willingly works with her hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
She brings her food from afar.
15 She also rises while it is yet night,
And provides food for her household,
And a portion for her maidservants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
From her profits she plants a vineyard.
17 She girds herself with strength,
And strengthens her arms.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is good,
And her lamp does not go out by night.
19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
And her hand holds the spindle.
20 She extends her hand to the poor,
Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
For all her household is clothed with scarlet.
22 She makes tapestry for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
And supplies sashes for the merchants.
25 Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “ Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
And let her own works praise her in the gates.
~~~
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
The Men's Rules
Thanks to a friend who shared this. It's worth a read.
Guys, what you think???
Girls, agree???
---
At last a guy has taken the time to write this all down
Finally, the guys' side of the story. ( I must admit, it's pretty good.)
We always hear "the rules" From the female side.
Now here are the rules from the male side.
These are our rules! Please note.. these are all numbered "1 " ON PURPOSE! Pay careful attention to the ones in red
1. Men are NOT mind readers. ( FIRST & FOREMOST RULE )
1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down. We need it up, you need it down. You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.
1. Sunday sports, It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just tell us what you want!
1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question..
1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become Null and void after 7 Days.
1. If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us.
1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.
1. You can either ask us to do something Or tell us how you want it done. Not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
1. Whenever possible, Please say whatever you have to say during commercials..because we don't disturb you while you are watching your soaps and serials.
1. Christopher Columbus did Not need directions and neither do we.
1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not A color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.
1. If it itches, it will be scratched. We all do that.
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," We will ! act like nothing's wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle!
1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, Expect an answer you don't want to hear.
1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine... Really .
1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as Racing or Football.
1. 1 You have enough clothes.
1. 2 You have too many shoes.
1. I am in shape! Round IS a shape!
1. Thank you for reading this. Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight;
But did you know men really don't mind that ? It's like camping.
Pass this to as many men as you can - to give them a laugh.
Pass this to as many women as you can - to give them a bigger laugh.
PRASHANTH.VILLANISED
Guys, what you think???
Girls, agree???
---
At last a guy has taken the time to write this all down
Finally, the guys' side of the story. ( I must admit, it's pretty good.)
We always hear "the rules" From the female side.
Now here are the rules from the male side.
These are our rules! Please note.. these are all numbered "1 " ON PURPOSE! Pay careful attention to the ones in red
1. Men are NOT mind readers. ( FIRST & FOREMOST RULE )
1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down. We need it up, you need it down. You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.
1. Sunday sports, It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just tell us what you want!
1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question..
1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become Null and void after 7 Days.
1. If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us.
1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.
1. You can either ask us to do something Or tell us how you want it done. Not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
1. Whenever possible, Please say whatever you have to say during commercials..because we don't disturb you while you are watching your soaps and serials.
1. Christopher Columbus did Not need directions and neither do we.
1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not A color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.
1. If it itches, it will be scratched. We all do that.
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," We will ! act like nothing's wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle!
1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, Expect an answer you don't want to hear.
1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine... Really .
1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as Racing or Football.
1. 1 You have enough clothes.
1. 2 You have too many shoes.
1. I am in shape! Round IS a shape!
1. Thank you for reading this. Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight;
But did you know men really don't mind that ? It's like camping.
Pass this to as many men as you can - to give them a laugh.
Pass this to as many women as you can - to give them a bigger laugh.
PRASHANTH.VILLANISED
Please read your Unit Guide...
Darn it I do read my unit guide ok! Now I'm just more confused after listening to your debriefing of the assignment.
I'm pretty fast with catching on what I'm suppose to do, heck the people at Popiah trained me well and have given me opportunities to mature professionally.
What you are all doing now is just making me more confused instead of training me further for the working world.
What are y'all doing?!!!
From what I understand, Murdoch course structure is in such a way that it caters to working adults who want to do part time study, thus the units are Internet and off-campus friendly.
Being so, their unit and study guides are pretty solid in explaining the assignments, etc. I have read the unit guide back and forth and referred to it every time I did an assignment. Am I really missing the mark???
Whatever I read and whatever you are telling do not go hand-in-hand 100%, who should I really follow? The guide or your words? Perhaps, it's not me that is confused, but you??!!
I'm used to be given instructions on how to do my work, if I made a mistake, I welcome criticism. But if the instructions were unclear, I ain't admitting fault.
I'm approaching this as I were working. I sure ain't gonna back down and let your confusion cause my downfall.
I'm pretty fast with catching on what I'm suppose to do, heck the people at Popiah trained me well and have given me opportunities to mature professionally.
What you are all doing now is just making me more confused instead of training me further for the working world.
What are y'all doing?!!!
From what I understand, Murdoch course structure is in such a way that it caters to working adults who want to do part time study, thus the units are Internet and off-campus friendly.
Being so, their unit and study guides are pretty solid in explaining the assignments, etc. I have read the unit guide back and forth and referred to it every time I did an assignment. Am I really missing the mark???
Whatever I read and whatever you are telling do not go hand-in-hand 100%, who should I really follow? The guide or your words? Perhaps, it's not me that is confused, but you??!!
I'm used to be given instructions on how to do my work, if I made a mistake, I welcome criticism. But if the instructions were unclear, I ain't admitting fault.
I'm approaching this as I were working. I sure ain't gonna back down and let your confusion cause my downfall.
Sunday, September 27, 2009
I miss production!!
I was watching the Emmy Award repeat telecast last night [I know it was aired last week, but......]
The experience was sleep-depriving, demanding as ever, a lot of Sundays sacrificed, tiring like no one's business, and stress giler!
But all in all, it was fun.
And when the show airs and you see the final product, it seems like it's all worth it.
Plus, when that particular show wins...
That feeling... only those who have been in production can understand.
Anyways, seeing the producers, directors, writers and casts going up to get their Emmy, in most of their acceptance speeches I realised that most of them said "thanks to the amazing cast and the amazing crew..."They would also joke about working you to death or working on that production was hell. Which from my experience, is most likely true.
However, very rarely you'll hear this in film awards, thanking the crew and all. But for the Emmys which is especially for TV... the award show brought back memories of my production days and how fun it was to be part of a production crew.
The experience was sleep-depriving, demanding as ever, a lot of Sundays sacrificed, tiring like no one's business, and stress giler!
But all in all, it was fun.
And when the show airs and you see the final product, it seems like it's all worth it.
Plus, when that particular show wins...
That feeling... only those who have been in production can understand.:)
I'm being nostalgic... hehehe...If God willing, I would like to be part of a production again, just for the sake of it.
